Couples Counseling Is For The BirdsI've never met a couple yet who entered their union openly admitting that they, at some point in their relationship, would have to seek couples counseling. And I'm certain I never will. Not only do most couples never expect to need professional relationship counseling, but few are even able to recognize the signs when they do. For most couples, the idea of their relationship potentially weakening to the point where they would need to consider couples counseling is unthinkable. For many people, attached or not, the notion of allowing, nay asking, an outsider, a stranger, to "fix" their unhealthy relationship is, well, bogus. And worse, they often see it as an admission of failure. Ironically, we often turn to close friends or family members and confide in them, especially during trying times, telling our deepest secrets and describing in graphic detail the turmoil that is our private life. And often, they offer a perspective on things that enlightens us and causes us to see the situation in a new light, and we end feeling differently about the whole thing. However, although friends and family can be sympathetic and helpful, they are often unable to be neutral or unbiased, and their counseling may unintentionally impose judgment where what you needed was neutrality. But if you've come this far, you've probably accepted your relationship is rocky, and that you and your partner may not have the skill to tackle it on your own. And if you both want to salvage your relationship, then you are a couple well on your way to recapturing the magic, and starting to rebuild on a solid foundation that will help you overcome minor barriers to success.So now what? No one wants to be the first to suggest couples counseling. There are too many unknowns. And there is always the fear the partner will reject the idea, leaving few other choices on the table. If you are ready to seek counseling but you're not sure if your partner will agree, it may help you to gather all the facts and details before first presenting the idea. Prepare yourself to answer all of your partners questions, and have a valid, convincing argument prepared for any negative reasoning he or she may make. If you do your homework first, you will come across as sincere in your search to save the relationship, and your partner will feel comfortable revealing all the bad feelings that led to your present troubles. It is difficult to agree to talk openly without setting the right atmosphere. No matter what the severity or complexity of your relationship problems, couples counseling can be helpful, but only if both partners go into it willingly and with an open mind. Marriage Counseling >> Disclaimer >> Terms Of Use >> Privacy Policy |