Discover Why Marriage Relationships Fail

Many spouses have asked over the years, "why did everything change after we got married?" Is there a fundamental shift in the commitment level or responsibility when we take the step to enter marriage relationships, as opposed to, say, cohabitation or other any committed union? Is there suddenly a feeling of security in the union that was not there before you tied the knot? Or is it the "forever after" that causes people to act suddenly and react differently around the same person that they've been with for years. Of course, many couples prefer a healthy cohabitation union, but marriage vows bind couples as no other relationships can do. After all, there was the whole big celebration, and you made that promise in front of all your friends and family.

Statistics reveal that many divorced couples claim to have had successful partnerships for years, sometimes decades, before they married the love of their life. Possibly the most significant reason a happy marriage fails is because of expectations. We pick up the idealism of marriage from a young age. The ceremony itself, with all its promises and fan fair, puts the union into a whole new category. Then there are what our parents and friends expect from us: a home with green lawns and a two-door garage, children to prolong our genes, and at least one vacation each year. Of course we know logically that this isn't necessarily true of all married couples, but there is a set of rules imposed on marriage couples, that partners in other relationships avoid.

So what makes marriage relationships different? No one has ever been able to pinpoint the answer, though many have speculated. You can date someone for many years, maybe even live with them, and feel committed and secure in the relationship. And society doesn't frown on your union as it once was forty or more years ago. Many couples view marriage as an unnecessary expense, and a bother, an imposition on their friends and family. A solid argument is you can best spend the money elsewhere. Other couples see marriage as a natural next step. Whatever the logic to entering this union, you should not be take your marriage vows lightly.

A common mistake that many couples make is putting too much focus on planning the wedding itself, and neglecting to plan the rest of their lives. They think the marriage will just take care of itself. But reality presents us with a whole new set of facts. Marriage relationships can be tricky to navigate and may need intervention occasionally. Couples should enter the commitment prepared to do whatever it takes to make the union work over the long-term.

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